09-10-2013, 12:38 AM
Alright, normally my younger brother is annoying to deal with, but lately it's gotten worse. So we're both trying to "lose weight". I use this phrase loosely because while he's purely trying to lose weight, I'm more trying to lose fat and put on more lean muscle/strength. I've had problems with my ankles and my knees where they would sometimes get swollen without much provocation, so I'm trying to take it slow with my cardio. Yes, we spent $600 on getting an elliptical because our mom wanted it to help me lose weight too, so I get on it when I remember and have the time to.
What REALLY pisses me off about my younger brother, is that he thinks that I have to work out in front of him to prove that I'm working out! He goes out to work in the morning, and I have work/school later on. Even if I ran on the elliptical for everyday for a week in the mornings, he would come by and be like, "How come I don't see you running on the elliptical?" in his flippant way of looking down on me. Then I would have to explain that I HAVE been doing it, he just never sees me. Why do I have to freaking PROVE myself to my brother?!
And I've studied kinesiology, plus had more interest in working out since before him, and he thinks to lecture me about the little he's learned! He's the kind of person who almost can't admit that he's wrong and always thinks he's right. If I go to the gym when he's not looking, he automatically assumes that I don't go at all. An example of this is he sees that my arms are getting bigger (obviously because I'm working out); after I tell him that weight training will help burn more calories in a 24 hours period than cardio, which was proven in a study, he's like, "All you have are the muscles on your arms haha". So, because that's all he can see, that's all he assumes. Like I said, I've been laying off doing my legs for now because I haven't been feeling like they were very strong. With working out, dropping fat, eating healthier, my legs have been feeling much better which is why I was thinking about starting this week or next week. But what, did he think that if I was working out my legs he'd be able to tell under my baggy gym shorts? Even if I had been squatting weights like crazy, it's not like my legs would grow double the size!
Really, I can hardly stand to talk to him anymore with his condescending attitude. First of all, our body types are different: he's taller and skinnier (5'11") while I'm shorter and bulkier (5"7"). Right now we're close to a 20 lbs difference, me being 233-236 and him being 213ish. When we're in our rooms, he comes by and is like "Look, don't I look like I've lost a lot of weight?" and etc. Last time I dropped 30 lbs, close to 215 lbs, I wasn't all bragging to him. He ASSUMES again that if I were to drop weight, I should be dropping weight like him. I tell him I have more muscle than him and he's like, "No, you just have more mass" with his arrogant, condescending smile. Obviously, I have more muscle mass!
I'm not supposed to hate my brother, but I find it harder and harder to talk to him. All day, I had two protein shakes and some kimbap for lunch. After working out at night, I wanted to add some low calorie protein so I got some turkey jerky from Walmart. He passes by my room, does a double take and is like, "What are you eating? You're talking about losing weight but you're eating high sodium stuff at night?" I just came back from a hard chest workout at the gym with barely anything to eat all day, so you might understand my getting angry at his high-handed comments.
I think part of the reason of his attitude is that he doesn't like the fact that I'm stronger than him. He's able to play tennis better, table tennis better, and is generally better than me at most sports, but I think he really can't stand that I'm stronger. We have a bench press in the basement and I had him spot me, years back, to see what my max was. I think I was able to get out to 215 or so, while he struggled with 185. But he thought that since I could do it, he could do it too, when I had obviously been working out more than him. Seems like after he realized that he wouldn't be stronger, he stopped using the bench.
This is how he asks me if I want to go play tennis with him: "Let's go play tennis, I'll pwn you," smiling while he says this. As if that's going to make me want to go at all. I think what grates on my nerves so much is that I'm always polite to people, I don't say things like, "Come on, let's go golf so I can beat you" or anything like that. When we played table tennis, he would act cocky when he won and not say much when he lost. I've beaten other people, but I would never act cocky because that, honestly, just seems incredibly rude to me. If I lose to someone who's a gracious winner, I'm fine with it. There are times when I focus on my mistakes as I'm losing, to try to correct them, but I'm never angry at them. When I lose to my younger brother though, he used to laugh about it. He stopped doing that so much, but saying that he'll "pwn" me, when I know I'll probably lose, I don't know what else to think except he wouldn't be someone I'd want to be friends with. In fact, my friends and my older brother's friends stopped wanting to hang out with him because of his personality, the way he looks down on people.
Sometimes, talking with him even a little is enough to get me angry enough to want to punch something. Our older brother moved out after getting married, and I think he's happy that he not only got away from our parents (who can be a bit overbearing at times), but also from our younger brother.
I think he wouldn't do something unless he knew that he could say that he was better than either of us.
I can't ever get the better of him in an argument because I hardly ever get any practice at arguing. I'm a peaceful person with everyone else and I think that at least the last 20 times I've gotten angry were all from him.
The last time I lost weight, I didn't go in front him and constantly ask him to tell me that I lost any. I just worked incredibly hard at it. He didn't say anything at the time, because I dropped to a lower weight than him. Now, he's constantly badgering me to tell him that he's lost weight. Our different builds are going to yield different results and he simply DOESN'T get that.
I think I'm even more easily angered than normal because of my low caloric intake. I'm probably taking in somewhere around 1500 calories per day, on top of exercising nearly every day, going to work, and going to school. Add to that a constantly infuriating younger brother and it gets a bit harder to breathe with the anger I feel.
What REALLY pisses me off about my younger brother, is that he thinks that I have to work out in front of him to prove that I'm working out! He goes out to work in the morning, and I have work/school later on. Even if I ran on the elliptical for everyday for a week in the mornings, he would come by and be like, "How come I don't see you running on the elliptical?" in his flippant way of looking down on me. Then I would have to explain that I HAVE been doing it, he just never sees me. Why do I have to freaking PROVE myself to my brother?!
And I've studied kinesiology, plus had more interest in working out since before him, and he thinks to lecture me about the little he's learned! He's the kind of person who almost can't admit that he's wrong and always thinks he's right. If I go to the gym when he's not looking, he automatically assumes that I don't go at all. An example of this is he sees that my arms are getting bigger (obviously because I'm working out); after I tell him that weight training will help burn more calories in a 24 hours period than cardio, which was proven in a study, he's like, "All you have are the muscles on your arms haha". So, because that's all he can see, that's all he assumes. Like I said, I've been laying off doing my legs for now because I haven't been feeling like they were very strong. With working out, dropping fat, eating healthier, my legs have been feeling much better which is why I was thinking about starting this week or next week. But what, did he think that if I was working out my legs he'd be able to tell under my baggy gym shorts? Even if I had been squatting weights like crazy, it's not like my legs would grow double the size!
Really, I can hardly stand to talk to him anymore with his condescending attitude. First of all, our body types are different: he's taller and skinnier (5'11") while I'm shorter and bulkier (5"7"). Right now we're close to a 20 lbs difference, me being 233-236 and him being 213ish. When we're in our rooms, he comes by and is like "Look, don't I look like I've lost a lot of weight?" and etc. Last time I dropped 30 lbs, close to 215 lbs, I wasn't all bragging to him. He ASSUMES again that if I were to drop weight, I should be dropping weight like him. I tell him I have more muscle than him and he's like, "No, you just have more mass" with his arrogant, condescending smile. Obviously, I have more muscle mass!
I'm not supposed to hate my brother, but I find it harder and harder to talk to him. All day, I had two protein shakes and some kimbap for lunch. After working out at night, I wanted to add some low calorie protein so I got some turkey jerky from Walmart. He passes by my room, does a double take and is like, "What are you eating? You're talking about losing weight but you're eating high sodium stuff at night?" I just came back from a hard chest workout at the gym with barely anything to eat all day, so you might understand my getting angry at his high-handed comments.
I think part of the reason of his attitude is that he doesn't like the fact that I'm stronger than him. He's able to play tennis better, table tennis better, and is generally better than me at most sports, but I think he really can't stand that I'm stronger. We have a bench press in the basement and I had him spot me, years back, to see what my max was. I think I was able to get out to 215 or so, while he struggled with 185. But he thought that since I could do it, he could do it too, when I had obviously been working out more than him. Seems like after he realized that he wouldn't be stronger, he stopped using the bench.
This is how he asks me if I want to go play tennis with him: "Let's go play tennis, I'll pwn you," smiling while he says this. As if that's going to make me want to go at all. I think what grates on my nerves so much is that I'm always polite to people, I don't say things like, "Come on, let's go golf so I can beat you" or anything like that. When we played table tennis, he would act cocky when he won and not say much when he lost. I've beaten other people, but I would never act cocky because that, honestly, just seems incredibly rude to me. If I lose to someone who's a gracious winner, I'm fine with it. There are times when I focus on my mistakes as I'm losing, to try to correct them, but I'm never angry at them. When I lose to my younger brother though, he used to laugh about it. He stopped doing that so much, but saying that he'll "pwn" me, when I know I'll probably lose, I don't know what else to think except he wouldn't be someone I'd want to be friends with. In fact, my friends and my older brother's friends stopped wanting to hang out with him because of his personality, the way he looks down on people.
Sometimes, talking with him even a little is enough to get me angry enough to want to punch something. Our older brother moved out after getting married, and I think he's happy that he not only got away from our parents (who can be a bit overbearing at times), but also from our younger brother.
I think he wouldn't do something unless he knew that he could say that he was better than either of us.
I can't ever get the better of him in an argument because I hardly ever get any practice at arguing. I'm a peaceful person with everyone else and I think that at least the last 20 times I've gotten angry were all from him.
The last time I lost weight, I didn't go in front him and constantly ask him to tell me that I lost any. I just worked incredibly hard at it. He didn't say anything at the time, because I dropped to a lower weight than him. Now, he's constantly badgering me to tell him that he's lost weight. Our different builds are going to yield different results and he simply DOESN'T get that.
I think I'm even more easily angered than normal because of my low caloric intake. I'm probably taking in somewhere around 1500 calories per day, on top of exercising nearly every day, going to work, and going to school. Add to that a constantly infuriating younger brother and it gets a bit harder to breathe with the anger I feel.
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