(04-21-2019, 02:55 AM)FerdinandtheFilth Wrote: we both agreed that if we were ever so unhappy in our relationship that we'd be driven to cheating, we'd end it rather than cheat... except she didn't.
Oh, we had that conversation too. Best to be honest and break it off. Sometimes honest conversations are hard and end up getting blown out of proportion, so it's easier to say nothing and hold resentments. Not saying that's right or rational, but who says people are rational and always do the right thing. I was guilty of not expressing my feelings to avoid fights, so even though she cheated, it was just as much my fault as it was hers. Plus, having a side thing is like having your cake and eat it too... I guess my takeaway from it is that no matter how much you think you know someone, you really don't know them. That won't stop me from trying again, but at least if it happens again I won't be surprised this time.
(04-21-2019, 02:55 AM)FerdinandtheFilth Wrote: She had always thought I cheated, at least once, but I'm honestly entirely faithful. The signs started small, just basic things that could have just been attributed to not feeling well.
I went off the rails in my own way... I actually knew she was cheating but accepted that since I can do my own thing and when she was cheating, our fighting stopped since we both said "fuck it"
(04-21-2019, 02:55 AM)FerdinandtheFilth Wrote: We went the therapy, sorted our shit, and are stronger now than ever before. That doesn't mean that makes things any easier though 😂
My ex is remarried, but we are closer than we were when we were married. Sometimes you have to live in the Omega to appreciate the Alpha... So what you say makes perfect sense... And that's OK, you both learned the lesson. Better than carrying on and living like zombies. That's not living, that's pretending to live