09-11-2019, 07:27 AM
I do well in most aspects of my life I have a good paying job with good hours, I don't have any major health problems, don't do drugs and I'm not an alcoholic. But when it comes to relationships with women I have absolutely no damned luck at all either everything will go great until they think I might be interested in them as more than just friends(even when I'm just being a reliable friend), then they start avoiding me or even worse will become straight up hostile or cold to me or the woman I am interested in ALWAYS draws the interest of another dude or dudes and ends up with one of them instead, or coworkers/uninvolved people start rumor mongering and they get turned off by that and quickly distance themselves from me.
I'll give a perfect example: There's this friend I had at work until very recently who is around the same age as me, we met when she started working for the same company as I do and gradually became friends. After the job that we were working on completed we were transferred to another location a couple hundred miles away where we are currently still at, she didn't have any transportation of her own so I drove her with me to the new city and when she was able to get her a driver's license and purchased a car back in the city we originate from I drove her back there to pick it up.
Now during this time we started having a few drinks together from time to time, we'd go to the movies(she's a big time movie enthusiast) and occasionally go out to eat together and just talk and enjoy the meal. Then she just stopped drinking which was fine with me because I enjoyed spending time, hanging out and talking to her and wasn't interested in getting her drunk. Then one day we were in a sandwich shop ordering some food(while I was helping her with her taxes) and the server mentioned that we made a cute couple. That was the last time she's gone out to eat with me.
She asked me every couple of weeks to go to the movie theater with her which I happily did and then she decided that she wanted to get a type of license to further her career which I supported every step of the way. Then one day she asked me if I could spare $5000 and when I looked at her crazy she amended it to $1000 that she needed to pay for the license. I was able to comfortably afford this so I not only gave it to her, but I told her that because I enjoyed her company and hanging out together that I didn't expect repayment for it and she happily took it.
After that she still would ask me to go to the movies but not as often and she was no longer interested in talking it was just go to the theater, watch the movie then we go our separate ways. What finally drove her away from me was that after we watched a movie before she left I gave her a quick hug as a friend(it wasn't a 5 minute hug and no I wasn't running my hands up and down her back or anything just a quick hug with like two pats between her shoulders then released). The very next morning she texts me giving me the third degree about why did I give her a hug(even though she has had no problem hugging other men at work) and now she doesn't ask me to go to the movies anymore she no longer texts or calls me, it's like to her I no longer exist.
The very last conversation that we had she said she wasn't interested in a relationship even though I never actually pursued one, I said no problem I'm happy being friends and can respect that that's all she wants to be. Nowadays she'll wave or whatever when she sees me at work but won't talk to me and absolutely will not hang out with me anymore.
I guess that I was being an asshole when I gave her a ride for no cost from one city to another so that she still has her job, I guess that I was being an asshole when I encouraged and helped finance her schooling for her license, I guess that I was being an asshole when I gave(not loaned) her a thousand dollars to pay for the damned license and I guess I was really a despicable bastard when I gave her a friendly hug like I have seen others do.
I wouldn't even be bitter if it was just that one loss hey you win some you lose some, but I always come out on the losing end of it. I would have a great life if I had someone to share it with but I guess I'll have to settle for dying alone and a lifetime of coming home from work to an empty house and the realization that I can't have a significant other or even a female friend because the thought of having me for a boyfriend turns them off.
Anyway I'm not looking for advice or anything I just wanted to put to paper my frustrations at constantly seeing any woman that I like cutting me out of their life like a cancer or worse getting what they want from me first then treating me like some pariah.
End rant
I'll give a perfect example: There's this friend I had at work until very recently who is around the same age as me, we met when she started working for the same company as I do and gradually became friends. After the job that we were working on completed we were transferred to another location a couple hundred miles away where we are currently still at, she didn't have any transportation of her own so I drove her with me to the new city and when she was able to get her a driver's license and purchased a car back in the city we originate from I drove her back there to pick it up.
Now during this time we started having a few drinks together from time to time, we'd go to the movies(she's a big time movie enthusiast) and occasionally go out to eat together and just talk and enjoy the meal. Then she just stopped drinking which was fine with me because I enjoyed spending time, hanging out and talking to her and wasn't interested in getting her drunk. Then one day we were in a sandwich shop ordering some food(while I was helping her with her taxes) and the server mentioned that we made a cute couple. That was the last time she's gone out to eat with me.
She asked me every couple of weeks to go to the movie theater with her which I happily did and then she decided that she wanted to get a type of license to further her career which I supported every step of the way. Then one day she asked me if I could spare $5000 and when I looked at her crazy she amended it to $1000 that she needed to pay for the license. I was able to comfortably afford this so I not only gave it to her, but I told her that because I enjoyed her company and hanging out together that I didn't expect repayment for it and she happily took it.
After that she still would ask me to go to the movies but not as often and she was no longer interested in talking it was just go to the theater, watch the movie then we go our separate ways. What finally drove her away from me was that after we watched a movie before she left I gave her a quick hug as a friend(it wasn't a 5 minute hug and no I wasn't running my hands up and down her back or anything just a quick hug with like two pats between her shoulders then released). The very next morning she texts me giving me the third degree about why did I give her a hug(even though she has had no problem hugging other men at work) and now she doesn't ask me to go to the movies anymore she no longer texts or calls me, it's like to her I no longer exist.
The very last conversation that we had she said she wasn't interested in a relationship even though I never actually pursued one, I said no problem I'm happy being friends and can respect that that's all she wants to be. Nowadays she'll wave or whatever when she sees me at work but won't talk to me and absolutely will not hang out with me anymore.
I guess that I was being an asshole when I gave her a ride for no cost from one city to another so that she still has her job, I guess that I was being an asshole when I encouraged and helped finance her schooling for her license, I guess that I was being an asshole when I gave(not loaned) her a thousand dollars to pay for the damned license and I guess I was really a despicable bastard when I gave her a friendly hug like I have seen others do.
I wouldn't even be bitter if it was just that one loss hey you win some you lose some, but I always come out on the losing end of it. I would have a great life if I had someone to share it with but I guess I'll have to settle for dying alone and a lifetime of coming home from work to an empty house and the realization that I can't have a significant other or even a female friend because the thought of having me for a boyfriend turns them off.
Anyway I'm not looking for advice or anything I just wanted to put to paper my frustrations at constantly seeing any woman that I like cutting me out of their life like a cancer or worse getting what they want from me first then treating me like some pariah.
End rant