04-02-2019, 03:06 PM
(04-02-2019, 02:48 AM)Stella 1977 Wrote: Problem is, after her crying and sobbing afterwards, I cant help but feel a little bit guilty.
So was I in the wrong? If so, how should I have handled the situation?
You did nothing wrong. In fact, i'm proud you stuck up for yourself. You can't control the actions or re-actions of others... You described how sensitive you can be (IRL, I can relate), so I can't say you feeling bad was wrong, since I probably would have done something similar. Again, don't apologize for yourself. The good news is, the hard part is over. She knows now not to grope you. If she does it again, say the same thing and be a little more stern about it. Put it on her like why would she do that after you explained.... If she likes satin, she can buy some herself...Why people have to barf up their problems and expect everyone else to have to deal with it is beyond me...
If she cries again, let her, this time show no emotions as hard as it may be. She's gotta learn. And do the same thing to anyone else... The "personal space" explanation is a great way to explain. But as you see, others here think you don't need to be as nice as you have been. Point is, you took care of yourself and you'll be better for it. It's her move (or non-move, really) to see if she respects you as a person or if she's just horned up wanting to cop feels because her significant other looks like Jabba the Huttress..
I can't say it any other way, so I'm just gonna say it... If i'm not correct then that's OK. I don't wanna sound biased but I'm probably going to come off that way... BUT
People like her may have mental issues. Not all LGBTQ people have mental issues, but a good % of them do. I've read reports (and there may be reports to the contrary) showing they can be very unhappy people. I knew a lesbian who was one because the men she found were assholes. She finally found a good one and is happily married now. Hey, if you are born that way, fine. but the way you describe her (and others ) may be indicative of some underlying problems. I suffer from depression, and I've taken advantage of others feelings for attention or to get my way in the past. This is what I'm drawing on when I say this. I think back and am ashamed, but either intentional or unintentional, it's not OK because you don;t think it is...Hope I'm making sense.
The fact she doesn't realize that personal space is a thing shows a problem here... Especially if she knows you are straight and married and you know she is gay. One of my gay friends didn't want to hug me since he was afraid he'd skeeve me out. Of course I hugged him, and now a days I'll take what I can get, LOL. But the point is people who don't know boundaries are either selfish or not well adjusted. Either way, nothing for you to feel bad about. She should KNOW you may feel uncomfortable. I can tell you I suffer from depression, so I can see how it's easier to play victim to try to get away with crap... Could this be the case? Otherwise she just doesn't care.. But let's see what happens from now on. And try to do that with others.
(04-02-2019, 10:45 AM)srijantje Wrote: try kicking her in her cunt next time,if that doesn't help yell you're molestedLOL! How pissed would you be if you actually did that and found "she" was actually a "he" with a PENIS dressing up to cop feels pretending to be a well meaning touchy feely. The thing that bothers me the most is that LGBTQ who claim to be victims, make others victims by doing things since others won't question them for fear of being labeled anti-gay or whatever...
(This post was last modified: 04-02-2019, 03:11 PM by LZA.)