07-14-2013, 10:03 PM
I really don't care if you all know anything about cosplayers or think I'm a child for this ran.
My boyfriend of 10 months and I have it good. We were friends before we started dating, he was one of the big hitters to help me through my last break up with a guy I had been with for four years. Sweet, funny, a bit immature but that's what I get for dating a guy who is a bit younger than me. Not a lot mind you just four years younger than me. Now I know that ever couple always finds hinks within their partners that annoy them. Like I'm sure my constant apologizing must grate on his nerves. And how he kinds gets distant when groups of friends are around like he's not sure how to act as a couple around them.
Recently we went to our first convention as a couple and he just practically ditched me! I was so pissed and hurt. I seriously thought about not following him around to keep up with him. Just stop walking and see if he noticed I was gone. We talked about it afterwards to get some things cleared up, you know the don't hide your feelings crap from your partner. It was explained to me that he really didn't know what it was like to have a girlfriend with him at a con, he just started acting like he would at every other con he's been to. Told him he couldn't pull that crap anymore and leave me out in the cold. I had planned everything to be about us at that con. So if he pulls the same crap at this one coming up in August I am going to have every right to turn and walk another way. It's one of the biggest ones on the east coast so loosing me could be easy. And I'm going to go to the rave to dance my ass off, I wont miss it because he doesn't want to go and just wants to play Yu-gi-oh instead. But what really got me was this weekend. I hosted my annual cosplay party for my friends on Saturday. It was early and only a few people arrived. Now I'm a typical woman who loves love. The thing is I am also a cosplayer. So I ship (making parings) from different fandoms. Thanks to my boyfriend I have really been into DC comic and mainly Young Justice, SuperMartian all the way. (SuperBoy and Miss Martian.) Talking to one of my friends about our shippings, he another of our friends comes out to see what we are up to. We tell him and he high tails it back in the house in a joking manner. For shits sake, this is a guy who can say he wants to marry me and have children with me, but when I talk about a pairing what we cosplay together for the couple value of it he turns tail and runs. First off, does anyone have to foggiest of what this could mean? I mean I will be honest here, when I talk about or have anything to do with the shippings of characters we cosplay together, I means more to me than just wearing costumes together. I guess it's like a bit of role playing, yes I'm slightly into that. I tried to talk to him about it and all he said was he's not into shipping. I'm trying to talk logically here and not let my emotions fully take over. but I really just want to say "Fine, I'll just cosplay by my self and talk pictures with others who ship." Just stop cosplay with him altogether, it seems he just wants to roll in his own direction. I'm sort of taking that up at this next con. While he's being under a red hood, I'll be the she clown to hang all over a joker. I know I'm sounding childish, but it hurts. Costuming, cosplaying is something I do with people who I care so much about. And wanting to do a couple cosplay is a big deal. I don't want him to be like my ex who just didn't want to cosplay with me, just on his own. But it feels like it's going down that rout. I've tried talking but it doesn't work. I hate this. What can I do?
My boyfriend of 10 months and I have it good. We were friends before we started dating, he was one of the big hitters to help me through my last break up with a guy I had been with for four years. Sweet, funny, a bit immature but that's what I get for dating a guy who is a bit younger than me. Not a lot mind you just four years younger than me. Now I know that ever couple always finds hinks within their partners that annoy them. Like I'm sure my constant apologizing must grate on his nerves. And how he kinds gets distant when groups of friends are around like he's not sure how to act as a couple around them.
Recently we went to our first convention as a couple and he just practically ditched me! I was so pissed and hurt. I seriously thought about not following him around to keep up with him. Just stop walking and see if he noticed I was gone. We talked about it afterwards to get some things cleared up, you know the don't hide your feelings crap from your partner. It was explained to me that he really didn't know what it was like to have a girlfriend with him at a con, he just started acting like he would at every other con he's been to. Told him he couldn't pull that crap anymore and leave me out in the cold. I had planned everything to be about us at that con. So if he pulls the same crap at this one coming up in August I am going to have every right to turn and walk another way. It's one of the biggest ones on the east coast so loosing me could be easy. And I'm going to go to the rave to dance my ass off, I wont miss it because he doesn't want to go and just wants to play Yu-gi-oh instead. But what really got me was this weekend. I hosted my annual cosplay party for my friends on Saturday. It was early and only a few people arrived. Now I'm a typical woman who loves love. The thing is I am also a cosplayer. So I ship (making parings) from different fandoms. Thanks to my boyfriend I have really been into DC comic and mainly Young Justice, SuperMartian all the way. (SuperBoy and Miss Martian.) Talking to one of my friends about our shippings, he another of our friends comes out to see what we are up to. We tell him and he high tails it back in the house in a joking manner. For shits sake, this is a guy who can say he wants to marry me and have children with me, but when I talk about a pairing what we cosplay together for the couple value of it he turns tail and runs. First off, does anyone have to foggiest of what this could mean? I mean I will be honest here, when I talk about or have anything to do with the shippings of characters we cosplay together, I means more to me than just wearing costumes together. I guess it's like a bit of role playing, yes I'm slightly into that. I tried to talk to him about it and all he said was he's not into shipping. I'm trying to talk logically here and not let my emotions fully take over. but I really just want to say "Fine, I'll just cosplay by my self and talk pictures with others who ship." Just stop cosplay with him altogether, it seems he just wants to roll in his own direction. I'm sort of taking that up at this next con. While he's being under a red hood, I'll be the she clown to hang all over a joker. I know I'm sounding childish, but it hurts. Costuming, cosplaying is something I do with people who I care so much about. And wanting to do a couple cosplay is a big deal. I don't want him to be like my ex who just didn't want to cosplay with me, just on his own. But it feels like it's going down that rout. I've tried talking but it doesn't work. I hate this. What can I do?
(This post was last modified: 07-14-2013, 10:42 PM by Vadallat.)