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Hi guys,
So I'm layed here in bed on Christmas Eve night just thinking and I'm now at the point where I need to rant and I have nobody to rant to so here I am... This is tonna be weird too 😂😂

So basically im just thinking about how weird I am. 
For example, I have never really been able to share food/drinks with anyone, that's just me. But lately, I can't even share anything with my mum and she was pretty much the only one I could actually share with.


So anyway, I have a best friend who I think is really disgusting. I know that is an awful thing to say about someone but it is the truth and I can't help it. Basically she is a big girl, now this doesn't make any difference normally but with her being so big (340lbs) she gets sweaty "down there" which means she has a constant smell of fish coming from her. She is also a VERY sweaty person (especially on her hands) which repulses me when she touches me and leaves a damp patch on me. This coupled with biting her nails so much that she has none left and the fact she actually mocks people who wash their hands after using the bathroom makes me feel sick. She has long, thick, bushy hair down to her butt which she freely admits and jokes about the fact she washes it once every 2 months minimum and then she asks me to do her hair for her because she's one of those people who pretends/thinks they can't do simple things and her hair always leaves a greasy residue on my hands after I've done it and dandruff goes EVERYWHERE. She also has really twisted teeth which isn't a problem but she doesn't brush them, so where they are twisted, there is plaque or tartar build up in the gaps which makes her breath smell so bad. Her lips are extremely cracked and she always has impetigo across her face or a coldsore.

I feel really bad for being so judgy but I've told her numerous times and her mum tells her constantly but she just doesn't care and finds it funny. 

So I'm laying here thinking that maybe this is why I have such issues with sharing food/drinks with people as I have been friends with her for 10 years now so have sort of growing up worrying about people's germs because of it.

I also now cannot stay the night at anyone's house because I stayed at her house one night (shared a bed, had no choice), and we walked in the bedroom (her and her boyfriends, he was away) and the smell of stale sweat hit me like a ton of bricks and the white bedding was grey because it hadn't been washed in so long. I lifted the blanket to get in the bed and there was a poop skid marks on my side of the bed!!!!! I ended up sleeping on the hardwood floor that night and i hadn't eaten either, not realising I was going to be staying at her house. She went to the toilet for a number 2, off course didn't wash her hands and then offered to cook for me. I was too polite to tell her how I felt so I just pretended I had already eaten. 

I love her to pieces but she is just so disgusting and I have literally just realised she is the reason behind all my issues and I needed to rant about it hahaha.

Oh and also, I was always fine getting changed etc. In front of friends but even though we are so close, I just feel so uncomfortable taking any clothes off in front of her, even though she has a boyfriend and she does it in front of me it just feels really weird doing it in front of her.

Anyway sorry for the long rant, if you have made it this far, thank you for reading and have a fantastic christmas!!!
(12-24-2018, 04:39 PM)Chloe0500 Wrote: [ -> ]...even though she has a boyfriend...
Sad - Another one bites the dust...Just another example of how Christmas miracles DON'T exist and if there is a Jesus, he hates me and his purpose is to see to it my life is filled with anguish and torment...

When you said "twisted" I've heard that used to described something generally fucked up, but it sounds like you're saying her teeth are literally out of place... It's twisted that her teeth are twisted...

You won't change her though; people will do things until it no longer suits them...Maybe if everybody shunned her and she became embarrassed about it she may change, but it sounds like she's set in her ways and if her boyfriend doesn't say anything she may not think of it as that big of a deal?
as usual LZA makes perfect sense again
Make a new best friend. She sounds grosser than some animals I've encountered.
Guys honestly she is vile. 
By twisted I mean literally twisted around, like her front teeth have turned 90 degrees so instead of seeing the "fronts" of them, you just see the thin sides. 
Her boyfriend does say stuff to her ALL THE TIME but she just laughs it off. Her boyfriend is 24 years old and has never even spoken to a girl before so everybody says he has "first girlfriend syndrome" (a term used for someone who has never had a girlfriend so goes OTT with what he has got and would rather have something than nothing) 
Like it's none of my business what she wants to do with herself and her life but I feel like she's to blame for how bad I am with sharing things/touching people etc. And feel quite bad that I blame her
(12-26-2018, 03:01 AM)LZA Wrote: [ -> ]
(12-24-2018, 04:39 PM)Chloe0500 Wrote: [ -> ]...even though she has a boyfriend...
Sad   -  Another one bites the dust...Just another example of how Christmas miracles DON'T exist and if there is a Jesus, he hates me and his purpose is to see to it my life is filled with anguish and torment...

When you said "twisted" I've heard that used to described something generally fucked up, but it sounds like you're saying her teeth are literally out of place... It's twisted that her teeth are twisted...

You won't change her though; people will do things until it no longer suits them...Maybe if everybody shunned her and she became embarrassed about it she may change, but it sounds like she's set in her ways and if her boyfriend doesn't say anything she may not think of it as that big of a deal?

That's the thing though, her other friends literally do not care and will happily share drinks/food with her, get changed in front of her etc. And laugh with her when she's joking about how disgusting she is. 
The other day we were sat in her bedroom when she decided she needed to try her pants on for our night out. She is a size 26 and her pants were (denim) size 12!!!!! She actually asked us to help her get them on so had 3 people pulling them up for her and because she has an apron (her stomach hangs lower than her underwear) the trousers lifted all of that up and her stomach was literally hanging over the top of the trousers (over the button and zip). She asked us if they looked okay and everybody told her they looked nice!!!
One thing I've learned. A true friend is one that will have the tough conversations with you...They'll tell you how fucked up you are and is not afraid of confrontation because they care enough about you to have a conversation like that...

Most people really don't care that much and are just looking to hang out and pass time, which is fine, but kinda vacant I guess... They are acquaintance friends as opposed to actual true friends which is fine. Maybe the others see how she is and think in their minds that she is comfortable with herself and don't say anything since they don't think it will matter. Maybe she's embarrassed and jokes in order to avoid dealing with it... Could be a many number of things...

You can't control her, you can only control yourself... I like to overreact and maybe see stuff that isn't there, but maybe I'd make open-ended statements so she can answer and you can see where her head is at... I'm sure a way to handle it is not to care, but the fact that you posted shows you aren't at that point yet.

For example: Say something like "geez, you can still fit into a 12? I don't like jeans that fit that way"( or something). Some people would suggest you flat out say "you are too big for those..." which is fine if you are comfortable saying that... or "I always feel better after a shower", blah blah, you get the picture.

If she agrees, then you know she knows but is having a harder time coming to the realization of her situation, or if she doesn't get it then she's delusional... Either way, you can't help her if she doesn't help herself... I'm thinking if you knew where she was coming from you can make peace of it for yourself...

5-10 years (or sooner), this won't matter to you, all except you are left with the memories of how you handled it for yourself and may be left with regrets that you "should have said something", or "should have kept quiet." There is no right or wrong answer if you know what you should have done... If you are cool with not saying anything, cool... I guess my advice is know what you will be cool with doing...

Whatever you decide...do it for you, not her. She's gonna do what she's going to do regardless of what you tell her...