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    (not) Wanting a boyfriend
    #1
    I occasionally wonder wouldn't it be great to have a boyfriend? Like someone to hold hands with when walking down the road and just someone nice and warm to hug in winter and stuff.
    But I somehow feel that I'm not really cut out for relationships on the long run...previous failed relationship show that I will lose interest in the other person after a year or so or I just end up feeling bored of the relationship - I know, I'm pretty terrible. Also due to certain 'circumstances' (it's not like I'm dangerous or anything), I feel that I just shouldn't have a relationship and what is involved in relationships.
    Nonetheless just ranting about my ironic feelings - wanting something but not wanting it at the same time. Huh
    (This post was last modified: 10-21-2015, 03:20 PM by wolfis.)

    The mad Wolf rages on.
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    #2
    It is easy to forget that you are not the same person for your whole life. From the time you are born, 'who' you are changes day-by-day. Personality traits, personal taste, hobbies/interests, preferred schedule (night owl or early bird) and many, many more things evolve throughout the course of your life. The person you are today (who doesn't feel up to the challenge of a relationship) isn't the person you will always be.

    I'm no fortune-teller, so I don't know how you will feel in five, ten or twenty years and you don't either. Perhaps then you will feel differently.

    Keep in mind that being lonely isn't the same thing as being ready to settle down. I have personally been in the position where I knew that I couldn't sustain a loving relationship but yet I got lonely and wound up dating 'seriously'. And it felt serious, but it was just the natural hunger in me for companionship and sex.

    If you need company and romance, just be upfront with people you date. Sure you'll lose more than a few, but the ones that stick around might actually be something more than a fling.

    Who knows? Smile
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    #3
    (10-23-2015, 05:28 PM)Wildcard Wrote:  It is easy to forget that you are not the same person for your whole life. From the time you are born, 'who' you are changes day-by-day. Personality traits, personal taste, hobbies/interests, preferred schedule (night owl or early bird) and many, many more things evolve throughout the course of your life. The person you are today (who doesn't feel up to the challenge of a relationship) isn't the person you will always be.

    I'm no fortune-teller, so I don't know how you will feel in five, ten or twenty years and you don't either. Perhaps then you will feel differently.

    Keep in mind that being lonely isn't the same thing as being ready to settle down. I have personally been in the position where I knew that I couldn't sustain a loving relationship but yet I got lonely and wound up dating 'seriously'. And it felt serious, but it was just the natural hunger in me for companionship and sex.

    If you need company and romance, just be upfront with people you date. Sure you'll lose more than a few, but the ones that stick around might actually be something more than a fling.

    Who knows? Smile

    Agree 100%. WC is a man who knows what he is saying, Wolfis. Take his advice to heart; he is a good man.

    One thing I'd like to add to his comment, is from about your teens to 35-40, you don't realize your day to day changes. It's like you are existing, living and nothing affects you like it does when you hit 40. When you hit 40, you tend to slow down and notice more. For me, that's when I crashed; when I saw everything around me. So my advice is Ferris Beuler's advice...Slow down and look around, you might miss life, and you might miss the fact that a possible real relationship is right in front of your eyes and you are going so fast you might miss it...

    Point is, you arer who you are and can do whatever the fuck you want... So do what feels right to you!!!
    (This post was last modified: 10-23-2015, 05:55 PM by LZA.)
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    Thank you gentlemen Blush
    Maybe the only reason I'd want a relationship is some companionship and stuff - y'know just occasionally cuddle into something warm that's not a blanket or a pillow. Occasionally I'd wonder if I'll be alone to an old age, my back up plan has always been to get a corgi as companion...But like you gentlemen said, maybe something may happen. Then again I am so incredibly introverted and passive that I'm guessing opportunities just fly by me. Thus I'm currently setting up project #socialise, which I supposedly socialise more and be more open. Big Grin

    On the other hand, I think I won't feel to bad about being alone and single if I don't see couples doing couple-y things in front of me on a regular basis Big Grin

    I shall look forward to what miracles and surprises are around the next corner of life. Smile

    The mad Wolf rages on.
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